4 Ways I Manage My Anxiety

 
I know Anxiety can be so very different to each person. I don’t pretend to tout these methods as a one size fits all. But knowledge is power, and these methods work for me. So, I just wanted to share them with the hopes they can help even one person!

 

I go for a walk or hike.

 

It seems so simple, but its actually a widely accepted concept. It comes down to the hypothesis of Edward O. Wilson, called Biophilia, which he presented in a book of the same name in 1984. Basically, it suggests that human possess this tendency to seek connections with nature and other forms of life, and I completely agree!

When my anxiety is on its typical rampage, I will go for a walk to the local park or pack myself up in my Compass and go to a nearby, national park. And I will take my dog, Fawkes, with me. He loves walks and running around the park. So, I find I get a double dose. I get to spend time in fresh air and nature as well as see my boy enjoy his little doggy life! It helps to distract my mind as well as burn off some of the pent-up energy that tend to come with my anxiety flare ups.

 

Music.

 

Whether its on my speaker or through my headphones, I’ll cue up my favourite songs. I’ll sing, dance, discover new songs, or just sit, listen, and dream.

Here is my current fav for when I am working on my blog posts or just trying to fall asleep!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XZ4WXAxtGDc

Check it out on Youtube!

 

I watch a favorite show.

 

Any show worth its salt is designed to keep you watching! Everything down to the music, the dialogue, the lighting, all meant to keep you interested. I find it really helps me when my mind is running a mile a minute with “What if”, “What I Should have”, or wondering if penguins have knees! (They technically do… They just have a shorter upper leg and it is covered in feathers making it hard to see… Any who!)  There are so many shows that are now at the tips of our fingers! (THANK YOU, NETFLIX!!!) What ever a person needs to navigate an anxiety flair up is just a few clicks away.

My favorites are Call the Midwife, Brooklyn Nine Nine, Forensic Files, and Golden Girls (not on Netflix but I own all the seasons on DVD.)

 

Journaling

 

When your mind is filled with anxious thoughts, writing it down or typing it out can help reduce anxiety. For me it feels like the weight of the words are off my chest, seeing them in black and white somehow takes away their frantic power.

 

I hope these methods help!

 

Cheers!

Candice 😊

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Quotes That Changed Me

 

“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.”

 

“You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequences of your choice.” A Universal Paradox – Tweegram

 

“Do the best that you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better” – Maya Angelou

 

“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive, and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” – Maya Angelou

 

“The expert in anything was once a beginner.”

Kid-less

If anything could turn me into a little fluff ball of rage (very similar to Killian when I try to trim his nails) its this. I’m 24, single woman, and I’m in the middle of building a very successful career as an RVT. And I don’t want kids.

“Kids” are a pretty universal topic of conversation and to be honest a very broad topic.

It can be great for family reunions talking to a random family member, you only ever see at said family reunions. For me, it’s a loaded topic and I just hate when the conversation swerves towards it.

You’re just sitting on the couch, contributing to the family gossip with expressions of shock, nods of concern, and laughter when warranted. You’re just putting in time, waiting for dinner.  The turkey looks amazing! Zoning out, zoning out, mmmmhhmm turkey…!

A random family member side eye’s you… Wait did they start talking about kids? Red Alert! Red Alert! You try to figure out an escape plan, “Oh gosh, we’ve run out of chips, I’ll go get some”, but there all in on it “Karen can get them”. Dammit Karen! You’re trapped. “So, when are you gonna settle down and have kids?”

“Oh, I don’t want kids.”

And the chorus begins…

“Oh, you’re just young! You’ll change your mind.”

“You’ll regret it one day!”

“What about your parents, they’ll want grandkids!”

“What if your future husband wants kids?”

Its not the explaining that I’ll now have to do. It’s the fact that what ever I say, they will not hear. As soon as I say, “I do not want kids.” They get that look of pity and have now pegged me as odd, as a crazy woman. Who doesn’t want kids?!

I usually opt for some polite brush off, try to change the subject or just walk away. But I’m going to tell you what I wish I could say.

“Oh, you’re just young, you’ll change your mind.”

UGH! I this one drives me nuts!

So you’re saying, I’m too young to know my own mind, but old enough for you to expect me to have kids? Riiight *Eye roll*. “you’ll change your mind” Okay, maybe, maaaybe, I’ll change my mind. Its not like I have felt this way since my early teens and have thought long and hard about this LIFE DECISION. Pft, clearly I am just being naive. Even if I do end up changing my mind some time in the future. That does not mean you get to dismiss my feelings now! I will not be dismissed.

“You’ll regret it one day!”

Well I’ll just deal with it then. The end.

“What about your parents, they’ll want grandkids!”

They already have grandkids.


My fur babies, Mop, Killian, Link, and Fawkes. Oh! And the tiny humans my sister had. I think they are fine. AND! I’m also pretty sure they would want me to have kids because I wanted them, not because its something I think they want from me.

“What if your future husband wants kids?”

Well if he’s my kind of husband material he will be good with kids but not want them. He will want fur babies as far as the eye can see. NEXT!

But it just the ravings of a crazy woman. But I’m not a crazy woman, on this I am perfectly clear. I have thought long and hard about it.

I don’t make this decision lightly. But that’s the thing. Its my decision. My life, my body, my choice.

Cheers!

Candice 😊

PS: Have you every tried fitting 3 cats, a small dog, a human and a laptop on a small recliner?? I never thought I would hear myself say “I need a selfie stick”…

A Whiteboard and some Markers

It all started with these guys.

 

 

I was bored at work and the white board we had been using to write our “needs list” on was empty. (We had just switched to using a computer program)

Morale had been on the lower side and I wanted to do something that would make people smile, even just for a second.

A quick look around Pinterest, some dry erase markers, and a q-tip. And VOILA!

The smiles they brought were worth more than I could have ever realized.

And I wanted to do more!

So, I asked the managers if I could use the board to draw pictures, write quotes, and just promote positivity. They didn’t mind as long as it did not interfere with my work, so I went full steam ahead!

 

I can do this

 

I started out small. I wanted to see how the staff responded.

Everyone seemed to like it!

Next I wanted the staff to get involved. Get them talking!

favourite book

As you can see it was a hit! As each person shared their favorite story on the board, they would share these beautiful memories of it with others while they worked. It was such a wonderful thing to see!

So, about every 2 weeks, I would do a new board.

Koi

 

 

 

memo

 

Calvin and hobbs quote

This one is probably one of my favorites.

 

Staff Shout outs

 

Sometimes I was able to celebrate certain holidays!

Proud Canadian

 

Eventually I began to feel the boards were becoming less needed and I was starting to run out of ideas.

But I had a few more things to say before I would put down my dry erase markers.

 

Swing.JPG

 

And its this last one that I really wanted people to see.

 

Real

So now I’m taking a break. To recharge, to regroup, and to come up with some new ideas!

But I hope this inspires people to bring positivity into their workplace, their life, or just give them a smile.

It’s all worth it.

Cheers!

Candice 🙂

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